{"id":1611,"date":"2005-09-09T00:45:00","date_gmt":"2005-09-09T06:45:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lordandrei.com\/blog\/?p=1611"},"modified":"2005-09-09T00:45:00","modified_gmt":"2005-09-09T06:45:00","slug":"one-mans-kink-is-not-another-mans-im-request","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.lordandrei.com\/blog\/2005\/09\/09\/one-mans-kink-is-not-another-mans-im-request\/","title":{"rendered":"One man&#8217;s kink is not another man&#8217;s IM request."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>About once every X months, I get a message from the same loser on Yahoo.<\/p>\n<p><i>Hey buddy, you ever like to play kinda rough with guys?  you ever use any nerveholds?  sleepers?  &#8220;energy&#8221; pressurepoints?<\/i><\/p>\n<p>The first time in September of 04, I tried to politely communicate that it wasn&#8217;t my thing. He kept steering the conversation to violent energy usage. Finally I responded:<\/p>\n<p><i>Just out of curiosity, is this the only topic you decided to chat me about. I think I&#8217;ve tried to let it run it&#8217;s course, but we keep coming back to rough play, and harsh use of pressure points? I&#8217;ve tried to politely impress on you that I don&#8217;t do it and for the most part don&#8217;t approve of it from an occult point of view. But this seems to not be to much effect.<\/i><\/p>\n<p>He went away. For 9 months. On 3\/31\/05 I got the exact same message from the same luser.<\/p>\n<p>I responded immediately:<br \/>\n<i>Haven&#8217;t we been through this already?  You had the wrong guy when you messaged me in July, and 9 months later, I am still straight and don&#8217;t play rough with other men. I don&#8217;t play with other men.<\/i><br \/>\nHe responded: <i>Sorry, forgot you!<\/i><\/p>\n<p>8\/1\/05 (only 5 months this time)<br \/>\nSame IM, same message.<br \/>\nI respond:<br \/>\n<i>How many times are we going to go through this until you stop asking me. What mailing list are you going thru to pull my ID? I need to unsubscribe from it.  You don&#8217;t even change your line. Every 3 months the same thing.<\/i><br \/>\n<i>sorry!  I;ll put you ignore<\/i><br \/>\n<i>Put me on don&#8217;t message any more. What list do you keep pulling my name off of? The next time I get your flyby messaging the log will be filed and reported.<\/i><\/p>\n<p>So&#8230; today&#8230; 9\/9\/05, barely a month&#8230; (He must be getting more desperate)<br \/>\nI&#8217;d had enough. Captain Aries decided to put on the strangle hold:<\/p>\n<p><i>Congrats. You&#8217;re about to be banned. Please mark this ID down. As I didn&#8217;t appreciate this on 7\/1\/04, 3\/31\/05, 8\/1\/05, and today. May I suggest that you log off and not use Yahoo ever again. As it seems as you are not able to not only use it in a mature manner, but can&#8217;t even seem to track anyone down to join in your kink and you have to keep recycling the same IDs every x months. By banned, I don&#8217;t mean blocked. I mean Yahoo abuse will now be contacted and your acct will be terminated. You have been requested to not message me on 3 previous occassions. 3 strikes. Your gone.<\/i><\/p>\n<p>Why yes, I do keep my logs. <\/p>\n<p>Why yes&#8230; I did write Yahoo.<\/p>\n<p>Now understand&#8230; Each person has a right to whatever kink they have. AS LONG and I repeat in caps with bold <b>AS LONG<\/b> as it is with a willing and consenting person. Believe it or not, morons of the world. 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