{"id":3314,"date":"2010-04-03T00:28:20","date_gmt":"2010-04-03T05:28:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.lordandrei.com\/blog\/?p=3314"},"modified":"2010-04-03T13:23:38","modified_gmt":"2010-04-03T18:23:38","slug":"42-life-the-universe-and-everything","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.lordandrei.com\/blog\/2010\/04\/03\/42-life-the-universe-and-everything\/","title":{"rendered":"42 = Life, the Universe, and Everything"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I enter the next chapter of my life today. The Earth merrily goes whizzing about the universe. Somewhere around 9:26 am local time this morning I will have travelled just over 24.5 billion miles through the universe. Actually, I\u2019ve just been going around in circles\u2026 But that\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.lordandrei.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/04\/IMG_6133.jpg\"><div id=\"attachment_3322\" style=\"width: 160px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-3322\" class=\"size-full wp-image-3322\" title=\"Andrei at Interview.\" src=\"http:\/\/www.lordandrei.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/04\/IMG_6133.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"150\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-3322\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Andrei in interview-mode. Click-for-larger.<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/p>\n<p>A smaller circle is about to close as well. After 4 months of unemployment and after my 2<sup>nd<\/sup> layoff in one year, I will return to work. My job takes me back \u2018home\u2019 to Pittsburgh. I do consider Pennsylvania my home. I wasn\u2019t born there; I haven\u2019t lived there in over a decade, but I lived there the longest.<\/p>\n<p>The job is everything I could have wished for in a return to the Three River City. The pay is nearly triple what I made when I left the city. The job is at the top of Gateway Centre near the point looking out over the Allegheny River at the new stadiums. I am architecting software solutions from the ground up for the Mac platform; not as a simply shoehorn Windows port. I will likely work on Apple technologies across the board.<\/p>\n<p>The employer moved VERY fast. I was told after each phone screen to not expect a response for 2-3 days only to hear back within hours. The tech screen was an amazing experience. I spent several hours (6) meeting and interviewing with the entire team in Pittsburgh on Wednesday. By that afternoon there was talk that there would be an offer. By the next day there was talk that contract was likely off the table. Today, two days later, there\u2019s a full time offer and I start in 9 days.<\/p>\n<p>My start will be a flight to Pittsburgh to orient, sign papers, get some initial work started and of course find a place to live. The entire family will be out for that trip and any and all help is warmly appreciated. Heather needs to fly back early for an important meeting. I haven\u2019t begun to even make these plans yet.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.lordandrei.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/04\/IMG_6135.jpg\"><div id=\"attachment_3320\" style=\"width: 210px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-3320\" class=\"size-full wp-image-3320\" title=PNC Park\" src=\"http:\/\/www.lordandrei.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/04\/IMG_6135.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"200\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-3320\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">PNC Park from the Office Kitchen.<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/p>\n<p>I then telecommute in Missouri for three weeks while we organise the second full interstate move in one year. We have three weeks to tear down our life here and get it set back up in a yet to be discovered location in Western PA. Those are the dates.<\/p>\n<p>Many people have asked me how the family feels about this. I\u2019ll be honest. Heather was initially more eager. My reservations will come next. The reality is that leaving St. Louis will be hard. Aiden has settled in with a wonderful Montessori school and is now at the age where a move may be jarring to him. Heather has just found a Pain Management clinic (since her accident) that is actually beginning to manager her pain. We also have formed a VERY close bond to 2 families out here. Leaving them will be difficult. Granted\u2026 it really hasn\u2019t been a greatly social life so we don\u2019t really have more than about that.<\/p>\n<p>For me, my last time in Pittsburgh was a time of growing up and shedding some very bad behaviours. It was a time of learning some truths about myself. I also lived through some incredible and often horrendous personal drama. Granted we\u2019re looking at the ages of 16-30. I often look on my life in segments. 0-10 was normal, 11-20 I got broken, 21-30 I lived broken, 30-40 I did repair, 40 I approached normal. As you can see\u2026 My Western PA years weren\u2019t my best.<\/p>\n<p>But, partly to Facebook and mostly to the passage of time, I\u2019ve mellowed and people I have known have mellowed and we\u2019ve reconnected. For a while I was admittedly worried about visiting because I thought there were people actively looking to get back at me. We can call this \u201cThe paranoid delusions of youth.\u201d Granted, when you\u2019re chased out of Kings Court theatre by 3 guys that are twice your size\u2026 sometimes paranoia has its place.<\/p>\n<p>In the past year I have reconnected (at least online) with people that I went to elementary school with in Eastern PA, with High School companions, with college classmates, and even a wealth of friends, ex-girlfriends, housemates, what have you; from those scary 20s. Translation: I think I may have buried all the hatchets out there.<\/p>\n<p>Of course there is my blood family. Those who know me know that this is a can of worms that really explains my discomfort with worms. This is a situation that I found I cured by moving far away. I took on a name change to celebrate my new family. Personally, I wish I could tell the world I was returning and convince them I was moving to Istanbul. I don\u2019t have any answers for this. It honestly scares me.<\/p>\n<p>So, what else could have been the concern for me? \u201cYou can never go home.\u201d Words, from one of my oldest friends from Pittsburgh. Someone I lost contact with for 11 years who I stumbled upon about 3 weeks before the job that would bring me back. We often referred to Pittsburgh as \u201cThe Gravity Well.\u201d People couldn\u2019t or more accurately wouldn\u2019t leave. There\u2019s a wonderful \u2018blue-collar\u2019 charm to Pittsburgh but some can see that as a detriment as well as an enhancement.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.lordandrei.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/04\/IMG_6153.jpg\"><div id=\"attachment_3321\" style=\"width: 160px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-3321\" class=\"size-full wp-image-3321\" title=\"5611 Fair Oaks\" src=\"http:\/\/www.lordandrei.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/04\/IMG_6153.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"150\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-3321\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">5611 Fair Oaks, Freeple training ground<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/p>\n<p>For a while when the job was first floated near me\u2026 I wondered if a return was a badge of failure. The perception was (to me) that I couldn\u2019t make it in California or Washington or even Missouri (No offence to MO). But the truth I realised was just the opposite. I\u2019d left to find my way into a profession that was entirely self-taught. I have a career that I learned from reading on my own and on-the-job experience. And now, I will get to practice that career in a building that I always looked up to as a college student\/graduate and know that it was my ability and the truth of my place in my career that got me there.<\/p>\n<p>It may not be a gold-plated garage in Silicon Valley or a show I am directing on Broadway; but it\u2019s getting paid to do what I love around people that I do in fact love just as much. People I have missed. (Some people\u2026 not so much\u2026 but with a kid\u2026 you prioritise)<\/p>\n<p>The adventure starts anew. I swore at the age of 8 that I would live to the age of 108. Well, more correctly I told my dad I wanted to live to see what became of America had it survived to the Tricentennial. My wife has asked for an extra 7 days so that I don\u2019t pass before or on her birthday.<\/p>\n<p>So let\u2019s just call this exploration into my history as a \u2018third-life\u2019 crisis. And see where the next two lifetimes take me.<\/p>\n<p>Hello Pittsburgh\u2026 I\u2019m coming home . \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n<p><em>P.S. This is the reason the blog has been quiet for a week or two. If you want specific details about my time in Pittsburgh house hunting, or to help, or to reconnect, or to connect&#8230; Email me at author&#8217;s link. 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