Edit:
I keep forgetting that my enigmatic posts cause far more questions than I am expecting.
I made an LJ support group.
That is all.
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Pleased, proud, nervous…
But such is my personality 🙂
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To which I say
better you than me.
Having had occasion this year to think about, though not participate in, poly relationships, I have come to the conclusion that poly would not be for me.
This is not due to any sort of judgment, but just due to the fact that, given the almost inconceivable, and for the past five years insurmountable, difficulty of achieving a relationship with even one person, I can’t imagine a situation where, having theoretically obtained such a relationship, I would have any interest in pursuing something so nearly impossible ever again while it endured.
One at a time is plenty sufficient a challenge.
Poly.
I’d argue that I’m poly ny prediliction. Reality, though, tells me that I have a finite amount of time and I often feel that I don’t have enough of it to love and The Boy as well as they deserve, let alone more.
More to the point, the challenging thing about Poly – or open relationships, or spice with your spouse, or however one chooses to describe one’s own flavor – is finding like-minded souls who are, for lack of a more graceful term, stable. I’ve seen too much poly implosion in relationships where one partner underestimates the power of jealousy, or persons who are looking to fill some perceived need other than the freedom to love, or simply people who Can’t Make Up Their Mind.
Like pure democracy and pure communism – good as an ideal, usually boffed in practice by sheer humanity.
That’s enough to say for now.