Tag Archive: communication


You have a long and varied list of how to contact you and regale us with stories of all the scammers who contact you, but it is difficult to get an actual response from you. Am I doing something wrong?

It’s a fair cop. Things have been a bit uneven of late. And in the old cliche words to all not just the asker, “It’s not you it’s me.”

Typically, I like to get a response out within 24 hours. Actually, I like to have one out within 2-4 hours. So what goes wrong?

For starters… best way to question me is via IM with an emphasis on AIM. I am horrible at phone conversations. But let’s focus on email.

If you don’t get a response from me within 24 hours there are a couple of possibilties.

1) I didn’t think the question necessitated a response. (Sometimes a vastly wrong assumption on my part)
(the writer of this wrote me a day or so back and didn’t know if the mail wanted a response)

2) I thought through a lengthy response and then did not have the time to get it together… (this is often followed by:)

3) I got it in my head that I did respond and actually forgot to.

4) Life got insane (boy, work, etc) and I need to get back to it.

For the Andrei can be a slightly absent minded person and thus IM is the best way to catch him directly in the moment.

Please note…. if you haven’t heard from me… It is VERY UNLIKELY that I did NOT get your email. I no longer trust automated spam filters and have written my own.

So… if You are pending a response from me… after about 6-12 hours if it is time critical… please feel free to ping me. If you send me a ping “Hey, did you get my email”… those I typically will get to as soon as I see them to give a brief overview of why there hasn’t been a delay. (Thus what we call a pong to the ping)

Believe it or not… when checking if someone is online or available… I may just IM them “PING.” Most of these people know to respond with Pong.

So… hopefully this helps not merely the asker but the rest of the readers.

And I’ll also take that to mean that the email wanted a response which will occur right after this post 😀

I love my spouse

A quick story explaining yet another reason why I am so happily in love with shimmeringjemmy

For those few that don’t know H has hearing aids. Over the years I’ve developed an international Andrei sign language system. It is not really grounded in any form of formal sign language beyond maybe years of pantomime.

I’ve gotten very good at conveying concepts and topics. For example this morning I successfully conveyed:

“You know, I realize the baby is still asleep, but as soon as you turn on the shower, he’s going to wake up. Don’t worry, I’ll watch him.”

None of this was voiced, only Andrei-signed. And I can assure you, she understood.

Granted, my signing has gotten complex enough that I often go into non-sensical but realistic looking signs. Today, I went into a sign after the above concept. H looked at me, nodded, swung her hips around and did a dance move that could only be described as a sideways froog. I gave her a thumbs up.

She’d countered my non-sensical mime with some of her own… And we’d agreed on our non-communication.

That was awesome. She hugged me and went off to the shower.

She is so muchly with the awesome 🙂