EditThis post was filtered “Friends only”. It is now public
I think that we come pre wired with ‘types’ that we like.
It took me the longest time to figure out why I got hooked on shadesong‘s journal. There’s a geek look that always manages to catch my eye. Call it my ‘first impression’
And if there is any doubt that you lock onto an image and it sticks, allow me to demonstrate with a scary parallel with one of my oldest and dearest friends who I love dearly and will til’ I die, Next to the more recent journal I’ve added.
And yes… as a kid, Lala Ward was meant to be mine.
EDIT:Being Poly means never having to say, “Oh, yeah. You too honey.” Because she already knows how much you love her, and the only time you say it is because you want to… not because you have to.
Ah yes, but Timelords never have time to date.. unless they are in Gallifrey doing boring council things… 😉
(Might I point out though that Lala Ward was British to boot and… oh yes, never mind on that one. 😉 )
I know the sentiment actually. I have a strong leaning towards the geekish look or something…
Being Poly means never having to say, “Oh, yeah. You too honey.” Because she already knows how much you love her, and the only time you say it is because you want to… not because you have to.
I agree. In large part, the success of a relationship of polyamorists depends upon the personal security of each of those individuals. If you are feeling secure within yourself, and within the relationship, you don’t need your partner to remind you that they love you too when they express love for someone else- you already know.
Of course, I think this knowledge and security would be great for monamorists also.
Amen!
I think you’ve hit on something very important here. I look at all the relationships that fall apart because of cheating, because of ‘looking at the menu’, because of dissatisfaction…
I think a lot of it comes down to a combination of insecurities coupled with people’s penchant _not_ to communicate. I think these two things could help any relationship alternative or otherwise.
The challenges presented in poly relationships have helped me to recognize so many issues that were related to my self-confidence and communication that I too look at many of the monogamous relationships around me and think, “if they could just be honest and communicate” they wouldn’t have these problems. I realize poly is not for everybody but the skills acquired from it and the understanding of how ridiculous society’s monogamous ideals are can be priceless. I feel that I have so much more love both for myself and those I am intimate with now than I ever did when I was in a monogamous relationship. Watching someone you care for be affectionate with someone else and feeling the love and passion suddenly becomes beautiful and empowering when you remove the deception and replace it with honesty. I’m probably rambling but it’s nice to share these thoughts with those of like mind.
I actually think your comments in regard to poly are applicable in any relationship.
Hee!